As long as I am bumbling around — stumbling in the dark, unable to land, asking the wrong questions for honest reasons — I think I am probably going in the right direction. Experience and historical precedence suggest that I am at my most dangerous when I think I’ve got everything figured out.
Life is too short to not learn something new everyday.
Try replacing the word ‘but…’ with ‘yes, and…’
‘That’s a great idea, but…’ positions the remaining words to stand in opposition to the idea. ‘But’ is used as a contradiction to the proposition that the idea is ‘great.’ Alternatively, ‘That’s a great idea, yes, and…’ invites layer and nuance.
How many things exist as binaries? Replacing ‘but’ with ‘yes, and’ — in speech and in writing — is a very interesting experiment.
Have you ever had a time in your life when a friend or colleague asked a question that made you stop and see the world differently? Have you ever pivoted or readjusted your approach to an issue because you thought of a way to think about it from a new perspective? Have you ever encountered a question that invited you to rethink your assumptions and biases in a safe and non-threatening way?
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What happens when you change a proposition from a statement to a question?
What is more disarming and invitational than an honest, curious inquiry?
If you want someone else to honestly consider an idea outside the schema of their present beliefs, what better way to invite consideration than to pose the alternative as a hypothesis?
How else do you engage counterpoints with inciting defensiveness?
But even more importantly, how can you hope to share your perspective with another person unless you can understand something about their point of view?
And how can you understand another point of view unless you ask?
What better way to discover why an interlocutor holds their convictions than to invite their knowledge and experience to inform your perspective?
What is better than a good question?